Menopause and Sex: Can I still orgasm? How to enjoy sex during menopause and beyond
Wondering if orgasms are still possible during menopause? You're not alone. Menopause is a natural phase of life experienced by all women, with over 2 million entering this stage annually in the US alone (1). Despite its prevalence, discussions surrounding menopause, especially concerning intimate health and sexual wellness, often remain taboo.
As your body undergoes hormonal changes, the end of periods may bring relief for some, but it can also bring a host of symptoms, including vaginal dryness, changes in libido, and even pain and discomfort during intercourse.
We want to break down the barriers surrounding sex and menopause. From common questions to practical guidance, we're here to empower you to feel confident and happy with sex during menopause and beyond.
Ready to learn more about sex and menopause? Let's dive in!
Prioritize Self-Exploration
Take the time to reconnect with your body and explore what feels pleasurable to you. It's important to remember that what feels good can change over time. Experiment with different types of touch, erogenous zones, and masturbation techniques to discover what brings you pleasure and arousal. Remember, your body is unique, so what works for someone else may not necessarily work for you.
Communicate with Your Partner
Open and honest communication is crucial for maintaining a fulfilling sex life during menopause. Talk to your partner about your desires, concerns, and any changes you may be experiencing. Together, you can explore new ways to make each other feel good and deepen your connection. Remember, everyone's experience of both menopause and pleasure is different, so it's essential to focus on what works best for you. Dr Kraft of the Sex and Gender Clinic says, “You have to let go of what you think everybody else is doing and just think about what’s good for you and your partner” (2).
Vaginal Dryness
Vaginal dryness is a common symptom of menopause, experienced by up to 90% of post-menopausal women; it can affect sexual comfort and pleasure, as well as day-to-day life. Caused by a decline in estrogen levels, vaginal dryness can cause discomfort and pain (3). The first line of treatment is vaginal moisturizers and lubricants. Using a vaginal moisturizer daily and good lubrication during sex can provide natural relief from these symptoms. You can find out more about our long-lasting Natural Vaginal Moisturizer here. Alternatively, check out our dedicated Vaginal Dryness Guide.
Experiment with Lubricants and Toys
When it comes to lubrication, wetter really is better. Experimenting with water-based lubricants or oil-based lubricants can help to reduce friction and enhance sensation. It’s all about finding what works best for you. Using a lubricant during sex can alleviate vaginal dryness and reduce discomfort.
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Another thing to try is incorporating sex toys, such as vibrators or massagers, into your sex life. Whether during masturbation or with a partner, finding a toy that works for you can add excitement and variety to your sexual experiences.
Focus on Sensuality
Instead of solely focusing on orgasm as the end goal, embrace the journey of sensuality and intimacy. Engage in activities that heighten your senses, such as sensual massages, erotic literature, or intimate conversations. By prioritizing sensuality, you can enhance arousal and enjoyment, regardless of whether orgasm occurs.
Embrace Mindfulness and Relaxation
Stress and anxiety can negatively impact sexual desire and arousal. Consider incorporating mindfulness and relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing exercises, meditation, or yoga, into your daily routine to reduce stress and enhance sexual well-being.
Seek Support
Don't hesitate to seek support from healthcare professionals or sex therapists if you're experiencing challenges with sexual function or satisfaction during menopause. They can offer guidance, resources, and personalized strategies to help you overcome obstacles and enjoy a fulfilling sex life.
Menopause may bring changes to your body and sex life, but it doesn't have to diminish your pleasure and enjoyment. By prioritizing self-exploration, open communication, and experimentation, you can unlock new levels of sexual satisfaction and intimacy during and after menopause.
