Sex and Pregnancy: Maintaining Comfort and Intimacy

July 22, 2024

If you’re on your pregnancy journey, congratulations! There’s nothing quite like it, is there? It’s magical and wonderful and terrifying, all at once! But aside from the sickness, reflux, and sleepless nights, things might feel a little different when it comes to intimacy.

For many couples, maintaining intimacy during pregnancy can be a delicate balance between comfort and connection. It's common for sex drives to fluctuate, and it's perfectly normal for your desires and experiences to change across the different trimesters.

So, let’s take a closer look at how to maintain intimacy and comfort during pregnancy!

Embracing Changes in Your Sex Drive

First and foremost, it’s important to acknowledge that fluctuating sex drives during pregnancy are completely normal. Hormonal changes, physical discomfort, and emotional shifts can all influence your desire for intercourse. Some people may find their sex drive increases, while others may feel a drop in libido.

Open communication with your partner about these changes is crucial for maintaining intimacy and understanding.

Addressing Discomfort: When Sex Hurts

It’s not uncommon for women to experience discomfort or painful sex during pregnancy. If sex does hurt, it’s really important to identify the root cause so you can find effective solutions to ease the pain.

These are some of the most common causes of pain during pregnancy:

Hormonal Changes

Hormonal changes can lead to increased vaginal dryness, particularly due to a decrease in estrogen levels. This dryness can make intercourse uncomfortable, or even painful. You might also experience increased blood flow to the pelvic area, which can make vaginal tissues more sensitive and prone to discomfort.

Physical Changes

As your pregnancy progresses, a growing belly can make certain positions uncomfortable (or downright impractical). This can lead to awkward angles or pressure points that cause pain. The weight of your growing uterus can also make intercourse uncomfortable due to the extra pressure on the pelvic floor muscles.

Emotional Changes

Pregnancy can be exhausting! Being overly tired can often decrease libido and make sex feel more strenuous (and painful). Then there’s the added stress and anxiety that comes with this magical time in your life – from concerns about the baby’s health and body image issues, to anxiety about sexual performance and stress around discomfort.

Medical Conditions

Vaginal infections, such as yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis, are more common during pregnancy – often making sex painful. It’s also pretty common for pregnant women to experience Round Ligament Pain, meaning that sudden movements can trigger sharp pains. And let’s not forget SPD (Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction), where pain and discomfort in the pelvic region can make intercourse uncomfortable.

It's incredibly important to talk to your OBGYN or healthcare provider if you’re concerned about any pain or discomfort during your pregnancy – during sex or otherwise! This will help you to rule out any underlying conditions. The good news is that a lot of the discomfort that women experience during intimacy in pregnancy is caused by vaginal dryness.

Why is that good news, we hear you ask?

Because, with the right lubricant or vaginal moisturizer, you can get back to enjoying a more comfortable sex life!

Choosing Safe Lubricants and Moisturizers

When it comes to choosing the right products in pregnancy, safety is paramount. Not all lubricants are created equal, and during pregnancy, it's essential to choose options that are safe for both you and your baby.

Safe Lube for Pregnancy

Look for lubricants that are free from harmful chemicals and fragrances. These types of lubes are gentle on your sensitive skin and reduce the risk of irritation or allergic reactions. Avoid silicone-based lubricants, as they can disrupt the delicate vaginal microbiome and potentially lead to infections.

Our full range of lubricants are plant-based, pH-matched, and certified organic for your peace of mind.

Moisturizers for Comfort

In addition to lubricants, vaginal moisturizers can help to maintain comfort by keeping the vaginal area hydrated. Moisturizers are especially helpful if you’re experiencing prolonged dryness. Again, opt for products that are specifically designed for safe use during pregnancy.

Our best-selling vaginal moisturizer, AH! YES® VM, boasts a smart moisture release system for up to three days’ relief from vaginal dryness. Oh, and its plant-based, pH-matched, and certified organic too!

Tips for Staying Intimate During Pregnancy

Maintaining intimacy during pregnancy goes beyond intercourse alone. Here are some tips to keep the connection strong:

Explore Different Positions: As your body changes, certain positions may become uncomfortable. Experiment with different positions that accommodate your growing belly. Spooning or side-lying positions are often more comfortable during later trimesters.
Prioritize Foreplay: Extended foreplay can help to increase natural lubrication and make intercourse more comfortable. It’s also a great way to connect with your partner - both emotionally and physically.
Use Pillows for Support: Pillows can provide much-needed additional support – making certain positions more comfortable by relieving the pressure on your back and hips.
Stay Physically Active: Gentle exercise throughout pregnancy can help to improve blood flow, reduce stress, and increase your overall wellbeing, which can positively affect your sex drive.
Communicate Openly: Keep the lines of communication open with your partner. Discuss your feelings, desires, and any discomfort you may be experiencing. This will help both of you navigate the changes together.